I know it has been a while since I have blogged.  Last week was a blur and this week my wife is away in Atlanta for school, which makes me Mr. Mom.  It has been very interesting these past couple of weeks.  My oldest has been an immense help with household chores, and even the little one helps out when she can. 

My little one decided her little baby doll was real and carried her around all day.  When my oldest asked her who the daddy was the reply came instantly, "Daddy is."  My oldest's reply caught me by suprise, "He can't be.  That would make him a Daddy and Pop-Pop at the same time.  That's not possible."  I guess my oldest is grasping newer societal situations that I am not aware of.  Then the sweetness happened when my youngest sat down beside me, "Daddy, you will always be the first boy I want to marry, even if (pointing to my oldest) she says I can't"

I found out that while my wife was packing on friday night that my daughters wrote her little letters about how they would miss her and how proud they were of her (she is getting her Masters).  They wrote them and hid them in her luggage.  When they told me I said it was sweet, but asked them why they did it.  My oldest's  reply made me smile, "Daddy, you write Mommy little notes all the time.  You put notes in my lunch bag for school.  I like it so I knew Mommy would like our notes too.  I hope my husband does that, if not, I will tell him he has too."  I couldn't help by laugh.

I had a discussion with my oldest yesterday about our family tree.  She has friends who have divorced parents, so I knew she would understand our family make up.  Let me explain: My Mother and Father divorced when I was about 7.  My Mother got remarried to my Dad when I was 11.  I didn't have contact with my Father after I was twelve till 4 years ago.  So, my oldest, knew my parents as Nana and Pop-Pop.  My Dad passed away 7 years ago (he is listed on the Dads who have gone page on this site).  4 years ago I was contacted by someone on Facebook and it turned out to be my half brother.  My Father had gotten remarried to a wonderful woman and had 3 boys (incidentally, he had 3 boys with my Mother, of which I am the oldest).  This threw my girls into a whole big family dynamic change.  Now they had a Nana, Lolo, and Lola (My father is Filipino).  I am 36 and have 5 younger brothers aged: 32, 30, 19, 17, and 11.  Then the questions became more about why they got divorced and such.  I told her that sometimes, even when they love eachother, relationships don't work.  She started siting her own examples of people she wasn't friends with anymore because they started to do different activities and they didn't talk much anymore.  I agreed and she was happy with that.  She then asked, "Daddy, will you and Mommy ever get divorced?"  She looked concerned, and I answered her as honest as I could, "Dear, people don't plan on divorcing ahead of time.  No, I don't think that we will ever divorce.  Mommy and Daddy have been together fo about 17 years and married for over 10.  I think that we know eachother well enough that it probably won't happen."  I could see in her eyes she wanted a simple answer of, "No, Mommy and Daddy won't every divorce, I promise", but I wasn't going to give her such and answer.  For what it's worth, my wife and I have a great relationship and I really believe we will make it to grow old together.  But I have learned that you never give a firm answer about things you cannot control.  I feel that it creates distrust if you give those firm answers and they end up not happening.

 


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09/29/2011 08:21

Moving words, I am usure what to say.

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